None of that happened. He was nice and he told me about everything that was goin on with him.He asked me to be friends with the girl and thats all he wants. Each Sunday, we will be diving into the Dear Prudie archives and sharing a selection of classic letters with our readers. —Prudie. I finally hit rock bottom when I realized I had nothing in my life but food. There’s just one little problem: I never told him I have a kid. — Prudie, sadly. Our new neighbor down the road lets his kids and dogs roam over everything without a care, even letting his 8-year-old daughter into the pasture where we had a horse who likes to kick. And you'll never see this message again. Over the years, I’ve earned the respect of my colleagues and superiors. I totally trust my partner, but this is just too much for me. Stunned into silence, she withdrew into mirabile visu , private meditation. The problem has gotten worse as city folk move in and proceed to do nothing but bitch about country life (no, we can’t make our rooster crow at a later time—he doesn’t have a snooze button). Today I witnessed the drearily familiar scene of a parent, undoubtedly driven mad by the auditory excesses of her child, seeking solace over coffee with friends. (Questions may be edited.) From Dear Prudence, on Slate: Dear Prudence, I am 40 years old and until recently a single father. Read Prudie's recent chats and visit her old archives. Yesterday I saw the missing pet posters on a tree by the turn off. As many as it takes? I want to be mindful of the fact that country life is different from my own and that you have a right to protect your livestock. — Prudie, hopefully. Dear Abby in Advice December 14, 2020 Man Lets Special Anniversary Pass Without Any Celebration. You two should own up to what you did and face whatever consequences come as a result. Since your son is worried about child pornography, I think you have to tell him the truth. Unfortunately Mary experienced a significant illness and Jane got laid off from work, and now they are worried they can’t afford in vitro fertilization. My question is: Do I need to make sure to keep them covered whenever I know I’m going to be seeing her? Might he be happy as a "formal" house husband — as many fathers have chosen to be? The question is, who do you really want to be, and what are you going to do about it? Last week, my husband shot and killed two dogs that got into our chicken coop. Q: My partner and I recently moved in together. I’m So in Love With My Professor I Got Tattoos in Her Honor. I continued to gain and, at my heaviest, was 420 pounds. My Son Found Nude Photos of Me as a Teenager. (I will put aside the fact that today if two 14-year-olds—and my, you two were precocious—took dirty pictures of each other, they both could end up on a lifetime sex offender’s list.) Mary is infertile, and Jane is already 38, so waiting until their financial situation improves might not be an option. My problem is that all my life I have told myself that once I lost weight things would get better for me. Listen on Apple Podcasts. The problem is that the pictures are nude shots! Ask Dear Prudence! My husband doesn’t think anything good could come from telling the owner, considering how little care he gives to his kids and animals. Join Slate Plus to continue reading, and you’ll get unlimited access to all our work—and support Slate’s independent journalism. Plus, Prudie and Davis respond to a voicemail from a woman who is trying to forgive herself for being in a transactional sex arrangement with someone she now finds repulsive. A couples therapist, as well, could be useful in thrashing out the real issues. Email: prudence@slate.com Production by Phil Surkis She did pay it back (in 18 months). But it doesn’t sound like the two dogs your husband shot were the same feral animals who have killed your chickens in the past, and I wonder if you or your husband had ever warned your neighbor that if his dogs wound up on your property again, you’d treat them as predators, not pets. It’s wonderful that you trust your partner and want to help your friends have children—and in this case, I think, perfectly appropriate—but that doesn’t mean you have to feel great about the two of them sleeping together. We raise goats and chickens and have lost livestock to them. Not only do you have a perfectly supportable reason to get divorced, you might even have a case for annulment. My problem is that my husband has been very depressed and has no work opportunities or friends in this location. — Stuck. We have no interest in being parents but are happy to be uncles. Which is worse, thinking your father has kiddie porn or knowing that you just saw a 14-year-old version of your mother naked? I wish I could hug you out of your recent decisions. My Husband Shot the Neighbor’s Dogs. 4,882. Photo illustration by Slate. I think you should find someone else to advise you immediately—yesterday of immediately—but at the very least, yes, cover up your tattoos when you are around her. Dear Un: Prudie shares your feelings entirely. What should I do? Dear Prudie: As I was getting ready for bed, my husband's computer started making weirder noises than usual. Emily Yoffe, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years. Photo by Getty Images Plus. This young lady is an asshole. Dear prudie, The boy i told u about came back 2 talk 2 me. Dear Prudie, I don’t know what to do. Aqua. Dear Amy: A few years ago, a not-so-distant relative, 35-years-old, asked for $3,000 to help with credit card debt. Dear Abby in Advice December 16, 2020 Living With Ex-Husband Goes From Bad to Worse . He is right that nothing good can come from telling the owner, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. He refuses to do laundry or clean, so I am often up very late doing household tasks. I have tried to move on, but I can't because I still love her. The pictures were in an old shoebox filled with baseball cards and other adolescent memories. DEC 15, 2020; Gateway Mom Gateway Mom. You still have some steps to take before you throw in the towel. Take, for example, last Tuesday's "Dear Prudence" advice column on Slate.A 32-year-old woman discovers that her husband has been having an affair and wonders whether to confront him. I’m glad, at least, that you are aware that your married professor does not return your feelings and that it would be unwise to offer romantic overtures she would have to politely reject. A mother-in-law believed to be from the US who wrote to The Slate's Dear Prudence to complain about a handmade gift from her daughter-in-law has been branded a 'monster' on Twitter. One is a small word in her handwriting, which is really cute, distinctive handwriting, that I got sort of in the spirit of unrequited love, and because it was a positive affirmation she’d written on some of my work, and having her say something like that about something I wrote just meant a crazy amount to me. November 27, 2013. My partner and Jane used to date in their 20s so it won’t be anything new. During my childhood and teen years I was always just 20 to 30 pounds overweight but when I got into college my weight spiraled out of control. (April 28, 2015). I’m paid a stipend set at the poverty line. I've worked long and hard to get here and, although it continues to be hard work, it is incredibly fulfilling. I didn’t think to mention it initially, not expecting to enter a relationship, and since then I’ve just never found the right moment. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life. Post Jul 30, 2018 #1 2018-07-30T21:43. Dear Abby in Advice December 31, 2015 Mom Eschews Habit of Baby Teething on Friend's Fingers. Probably the best thing you can do (when you can stand it no longer) is to say something. Dear Prudence, I have this problem I’m hoping you can help me with. I didn’t directly tell him that the pictures were of me, but assured him that his father didn’t look at or keep teenage porn and that I would speak to him about it. Creators.com requires Javascript for full functionality. Thanks for signing up! If she is a responsible person, she would not have offered to be your adviser if she knew the extent of your infatuation. Dear Abby in Advice … Each Sunday, we will be diving into the Dear Prudie archives and sharing a selection of classic letters with our readers. I loudly told the mother of a 2-year-old to shut her child up. A little over a year and a half ago, I met a woman who totally changed my perspective on life. Dear Prudence | Advice on relationships, sex, work, family, and life podcast on demand - Advice, commentary, and conversation from Danny M. Lavery, author of Slate's Dear Prudence column. Dear Prudie, I realize that marriage/partnership means that you take the bad with the good and learn to put up with each others', well, bodily idiosyncrasies. I still have nobody special in my life. Dear Abby Archives. This is not an especially old-fashioned problem. Every day, I listen to college-age women gab on their cell phones about the most intimate matters while I am sitting mere feet away. To protect yourself, my only recommendation would be to find places that are not hangouts for young mothers. Plus, Prudie and Davis respond to a voicemail from a woman who is trying to forgive herself for being in a transactional sex arrangement with someone she now finds repulsive. I wonder if your husband saw an opportunity to get rid of animals he considered a nuisance. I think your husband allowed his earlier frustrations with newly arrived neighbors from the city to influence his decision to shoot first and ask questions later. Arghhhh. Can you help? Cell phones are, alas, now part of life, and either people don't care that they're bothering others and may be overheard — or they've never given it a thought. Nearly two months ago, I met a guy on Tinder, expecting nothing more than a casual hookup. Should I let this happen so my two wonderful friends can become parents without spending tens of thousands of dollars? In the past few years, the sperm bank industry has experienced controversy quite often. Aqua. Dear Prudence: I am cursed by having the greatest job in the world. Help! However, we ended up clicking really well and have gone on a lot of real dates since then. Goodbye Dear Prudie… I’m a 22-year-old feminist blogger and sometimes I read this Slate advice column by Emily Yoffe—you, actually—who just wrote yet another column dismissing a woman’s alleged rape because of her drinking. All rights reserved. She is also Slate's Human Guinea Pig, a contributor to the XX Factor blog, and the author of What the Dog Did: Tales From a Formerly Reluctant Dog Owner. Prudence said, “Send the card back. The column was initiated on 20 December 1997. The second in an extremely infrequent series reviewing every advice column in the world. Once in a while, it may even do some good. My 14-year-old son recently came across some Polaroid pictures of me that his father took of me back when we were 14—we have been together for a long time and got married when I was pregnant with my son. Get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week; click here to sign up. Dear Prudie, Help me figure out how to make things right with my brother. Well, I don't, not when she barely made an effort to quiet a kid who was running around and screaming. Dear Abby in Advice December 17, 2020 Ex Comes Back for a Second Chance After Being Rejected. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. The song was written by John Lennon and credited to the Lennon–McCartney partnership. Sign up now to listen. —Danny M. Lavery, From: Help! If you read the Dear Prudence archives you will see endless letters from people who had incredible sex daily during their youth and now are wandering a middle-aged sexual desert. An edited transcript of the chat is below. We can’t keep on seeing each other only at his apartment or when my kid is at Grandma’s, and I really want my child to meet him. Long ago, he helped … Q. I had a professor last semester who I am really, literally in love with. 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